The Three Great Lies of S&M (and a few others)...
Copyright 1995 by Jay Wiseman, Lady Green, Glen the paramedic, and Dale the actress.
...that we tell straight people.
2. It's for a crafts project.
3. I fell off my bicycle.
2. I just do this for fun. I don't need it.
3. Mistress, I'll do anything you want.
2. I always stop when I feel genuine anger.
3. I only play with people I respect.
4. I'm doing this for healthy reasons.
2. I have a healty relationship with my mother.
3. I truly believe that it takes a strong woman to submit..
.. that submissive women tell dominant men.
2. It's enough to serve you, Master. I don't need to get off.
3. I really want you to be in charge.
4. I love it when you come in my mouth.
5. Licking your feet and asshole really turns me on.
6. I like your pot belly.
7. You own me body and soul.
2. I exist only to serve you.
3. I don't care about getting off.
4. I regard women as superior beings.
5. You're beautiful to me.
6. I really get off on doing housework for you.
7. My wife knows that I do this.
... that dominant women tell submissive men.
2. Wearing high heels makes me feel more powerful.
3. I can't top anybody who doesn't turn me on.
4. I never switch.
5. I love giving golden showers.
2. Some of my best friends are submissive men.
3. When I watch you play at a party, I don't secretly hope that you'll fuck up and everyone will notice.
4. I can still be dominant after I've had an orgasm.
2. I never tell her what to do.
3. I've never gone to a professional Mistress.
4. I love it when my Mistress won't let me come for days.
5. I don't think my Mistress is fat.
6. I don't mind that you can take more pain than I can.
7. I really believe that my mission in life is to serve women.
8. I really like going down on my Mistress during her period.
... that bi switches tell each other.
2. I'm not at all homophobic.
3. I separate sex from SM.
4. Being bi is the best of both worlds.
5. I only play with people I feel intimate with.
6. I only play with other switches.
|... that we tell vanilla prospective play partners.
2. This is fundamentally a nurturing activity.
3. Submission is empowering.
4. You need to explore this side of yourself.
2. I feel that you and I are part of a Sisterhood.
3. I can stay in top space while I'm getting fucked.
2. I'm not really an exhibitionist.
3. I don't feel competitive towards other submissives.
4. It's OK with me if you play with my Master.
... that professional Mistresses tell each other.
2. I never have sex with a client.
3. Business is bad.
4. I always stick to my specialty and refer out clients who want other things.
5. I'd do this even if I wasn't getting paid.
6. I never need to bottom.
7. I'm always in control of the session.
8. I'm a good businesswoman.
9. My lover doesn't mind that I do this.
10. It was my choice to leave my last straight job.
2. I know other people who are into this.
3. We negotiate everything too.